Adoption

Adoption is a topic that is dear to my heart. Even though our adoption has been finalized I still keep up to date on trends and important topics in the world of adoption. Our lives have forever been changed through the adoption process. Our adoption story starting with a few days before placement until the present time is recorded on this blog.

Disappointment

Saturday, June 7th, 2008

On Wednesday we received a phone call about a baby that was born on Sunday in AZ. We were asked if we would take this baby since the adoptive parents that were chosen walked away. We were surprised and even excited about this prospect. We had given up hope of adopting and thought this was a miracle. We agreed to adopt this baby girl.

In the meantime the BMom left the baby at the hospital. The hospital had to call CPS, since there were no named parents. The case went to family court on Friday to determine who should get custody, CPS or the Adoption Agency. The court decided that CPS should get custody. So now this baby can not be placed for adoption until all family resources are exhausted, once placed for adoption, it will most likely go to a family living in AZ.

It is just so hard to move on, but our time in Baby Wish Land is over. Yes, we have said that before, we just can not deal with the hurt, heartache and disappointmentshopes up only to have them dashed again. So now we once again are DONE for good. The past few days our stress level went through the roof. The disappointment when we were told of the courts decision was unbearable. All we want to do is love another child, but that seems impossible.

Waiting

Friday, June 6th, 2008

Why is it so hard to wait. For the past couple of days it seems like all I do is wait. I had to wait for my car to get repaired. I had to wait for David’s clients to finalize his trip plans so I could make my own plans, and now I am waiting for a phone call. Why is it so hard for people to wait. I find myself consumed with trying to get information that I just have to wait for. Maybe one day I will learn how to wait without becoming stressed out.

Why won’t the phone ring????

Adoption

Monday, June 2nd, 2008

Most of you know that for the past three years we have been trying to adopt a child. We dealt with DFACS for about two years, and are coming up on the 1 year anniversary of working with a private agency. I am writing this to let everyone know that we have officially given up on adopting a child. We have spent countless hours in training, completing paperwork and in meetings and are still at square 1. We have also spent a ton of money on home studies and agency fees. Our paperwork expires at the start of July and we have no prospects of any children and in order to continue the adoption process we will have to redo our home study and pay more fees.

During the past year we have only been presented to 5 birth mothers. Two of these women, went MIA, 1 decided to use a agency that would give her more money, one really did not want to put the child up for adoption and with the most recent case the adoption agency never called us back, so we can only assume that the BMom choose another set of parents.

We both feel that if this was really meant to be we would not still be at step one. We have had all that we can take emotionally and need to move on with our lives. We have been stuck in “baby wish land” for far too long and need to figure out what the real plan for our life is.