Adoption

Adoption is a topic that is dear to my heart. Even though our adoption has been finalized I still keep up to date on trends and important topics in the world of adoption. Our lives have forever been changed through the adoption process. Our adoption story starting with a few days before placement until the present time is recorded on this blog.

7 Months

Monday, January 26th, 2009


It is hard to believe that Madilyn is already 7 months old. Where has the time gone? She is a beautiful little girl and I feel so blessed to have her. Our adoption will be final next week. While finalization is just a “piece of paper” I can not wait for the judge to say that the adoption is finalized. It seems like such a long road that we have traveled to get to this point.

Madilyn is reaching all of her milestones and is a happy healthly baby. She is now in the process of trying to stand up by herself. She falls, but always gets back up to try again. She is not one to give up easily.

She is now sleeping through the night, and when she wakes up she will play in her crib for a little while. Most of the time we can lay her down at night while she is still awake and within a few minutes she will fall asleep, without any fussing or crying.

I hope one day that she will know how much she is loved and how much she was wanted. I am so glad that the night we got the phone call about her we said yes. We had been hurt and let down so many times in the past with similar phone calls that we had given up on ever having another child. I am thankful that God placed in our hearts to say yes.

Adoption Finalization

Wednesday, January 7th, 2009

We heard from our attorney last night. Our adoption court date is set for February 3 at 9:30 am. We have requested to do the adoption by telephone due to the cost of travel to Iowa. The judge did approve this but really did not want to do so. He was not sure how other judges in the court would feel about this so he said we would need to finalize in his court and February 3 was the earliest date that he had available.

Please pray that we do not have any futher delays with this process. It has been a long hard road and we are ready to be done with this.

Frustration–

Friday, November 21st, 2008

Seems like every time we start moving on in life, we get a letter or email from the attorney with not so great news. Today we got our bill and the bill for the bmom’s attorney. I am still puzzled as to why we have to pay this bill for her. She is the one who sued us. So now we owe around $7000 to attorneys, we have already paid around 3000 in attorney fees. Our attorney said we can work on a payment plan, hers pretty much wants to be paid sooner rather than later. Guess we will not have any extra money for a while, since everything will be going to pay these bills.

I am trying to be positive but I am so tired of being jerked around by these people. I just want this to be over and finalized. Pray that this happens in January as planned and that we do not have to pay anymore attorney fees.

Just Rollilng Along

Thursday, November 6th, 2008

Well we are just grooving along here in the Lloyd household. We do not have any new information to report concerning the adoption or finalization. However, we have been blindsided with the bill from the bmom’s attorney, which is around $6000.00. Not too happy about this, she sued us and was trying to get us to buy her baby, now we have to pay her attorney. These laws need to be rewritten, we had our own legal fees to pay and were not prepared to pay even more. Pray for about this funding… we do not want to put it on credit, and we don’t have it all in the bank. Hopefully her attorney will accept a payment plan.

Adoption Update

Thursday, October 23rd, 2008

The darkness at the end of the tunnel has now grown to a light at the end of the tunnel. We talked with our attorney yesterday. Our 180 days started on July 1 not October 1, which is when the TPR (termination of parent rights) was signed. We should receive our court date for finalization sometime toward the end of November or early December. Our court date should be during the 2 week of January.

We were told by the adoption agency that we would not have to go to Iowa for finalization, however, we are now being told that the agency was incorrect and that we do have to attend the finalization hearing in Iowa. So that means another long trip to Iowa. At least this time we will not be stuck there not knowing what is going on like we were in July. That was the longest 17 days of our lives. I guess we can take pictures with the judge and make a big deal out of it. It would be great if additional family members could attend, but that is such a long trip, so I doubt that anyone else will be able to attend.

At the time of finalization paperwork will be filed for a new birth certificate. This birth certificate will be issued with the name we have choosen Madilyn Rachel. We will then be able to apply for a social security number once we receive the reissued birth certificate.

I feel like this process is taking forever, but Madilyn is only 4 months old, so I guess it has not been forever. I just want to see her Birth Certificate with our name on it. I want my insurance card to have her name on it, not the name she was given in the hospital. It will happen, it will just take time.

Adoption Update

Sunday, October 5th, 2008

As many of you know we have had a stressful time with our adoption. I have not posted all of the details of the problems for the protection of Madilyn and our family. I do not wish to post everything about her bmom, because its really painful to think about everything that she has said and done during the past few months.

As of Wednesday, Oct. 1 all of Madilyn’s biological parents rights have been terminated. Basically the BMom wanted more money so she contested the adoption. Long story short, we ended up paying another 1500 for birthmother expenses, and now she has no rights. We are now waiting for a court date for finalization. This probably will not happen until January. Georgia law requires that an adoption can not be finalized until the child has lived in the house for 180 days. So we are waiting. Hopefully our court date will come quickly after the 180 days passes.

Insurance Red Tape

Monday, July 28th, 2008

We have been trying to get Madilyn on our insurance, but the company is being slow and not liking that we do not have a SS# for her yet. So we had to pay for her well visit today. Hopefully we can get reimbursed, she should be added by the next visit that we have at the end of August.

She is now just over 9 lbs. and 20 inches. She is a little short. The doctors say she appears to be doing well. We had no medical information to pass on to them so they do not know how much she has grown since birth. The medical records should be here in a few days.

Home

Friday, July 18th, 2008


We received clearance last night to go home. We packed and left within 30 minutes of being cleared. We were planning on stopping after about driving 5 hours, but we just kept driving. We arrived home around 12:30 this afternoon. After 17 days of being away home has never looked so good.

We are so happy to be home with Madilyn. We will post new pictures in a few days.

ICPC Paperwork Recieved by GA

Thursday, July 17th, 2008

GA has received our ICPC paperwork from IOWA. However, the packet is incomplete. This Iowa adoption agency is driving me nuts.

Our Adoption Consultants in GA prepared a packet for us to give to any adoption agency across the nation. The packet is about 100 pages long and is apparently required by the state of GA to process any adoption. Well the adoption agency here refused to take the packet to add to their information. They said it was not needed and that they had everything we would need to clear ICPC in both Iowa and Georgia. Well Georgia requires much more than Iowa, so the packet can not be cleared by GA since it is incomplete.

Right now our consultants in GA are faxing the GA ICPC the missing pages. Maybe we will get a verbal that we can leave tonight or in the morning.

Lies of the Adoption Agency

Thursday, July 17th, 2008

On July 7, we were told a lie by our Adoption Agency here in Iowa. So the last 1o days have been full of frustration . One big lie they told us was that they sent our ICPC packet to GA. There have been other lies, but this post will focus on the big lie that has kept us here in IOWA for 17 days.

It has been a long 17 days…. and it just got longer last night. We are very frustrated but hoping for some good news today or tomorrow. Please keep us in your prayers.

Here’s what happened:

Yesterday after waiting for 16 days we called our adoption consultants in GA to see if they could contact the GA ICPC to find out the status of our paper work. After going back and forth with them on the phone for hours we were told our paperwork has not arrived in GA. The GA ICPC contact was able to check the computer and found that a packet is coming from IOWA today. However, the GA ICPC were unable to determine if the packet was ours.

We were told by the adoption agency here in Iowa that the paperwork was sent on July 7. I called the adoption agency and questioned them about when the packet was sent. During the first call I got an “I am not sure when it was sent but you have been approved in Iowa, we are just waiting on GA.” I called our contacts in GA again and they said they were still working on it from there end. I then placed a second phone call to the agency here in Iowa and told them that our packet had not arrived and I needed to know when it was sent. I was very upset to find that it had just been sent out over night a few hours prior to my phone call. We just do not understand why they choose to lie to us about the approval process of the packet.

I did not want to get into a fight with them at this point. I asked why it had taken 16 days to process paperwork that normally takes 3 days. I finally got some answers, I just wish the agency had been honest with us 2 weeks ago. It would have saved us a lot of stress and frustration.

Since the baby had been placed with another agency there was another ICPC packet floating around on her. When our agency sent our packet in the situation was red flagged for an investigation to make sure the baby was not being sold to the highest bidder. The BMom switched agencies because the agency she was first working with did not let her help choose a family, they did not keep any promises that they made to her, so she pulled out of the contract. Well they did not pull the paperwork from the ICPC offices, which led to an investigation, because there were two packets waiting approval for the same baby.

Our adoption consultants in GA are working with the ICPC in GA to get us cleared today or tomorrow. IF THE PACKET IN ROUTE TO THEM FROM IOWA IS OURS.

Please pray that our packet arrives in GA today and that we can be given clearance today or tomorrow. If we are not cleared tomorrow that puts us being out of town for another weekend. I am not sure how much longer we can survive being in such close quarters.