Posts Tagged ‘bmom’

I am her MOTHER!

Monday, May 11th, 2009

Several times last week people asked me if I was going to send Madilyn’s bmom a Mother’s Day card. My thought was what??? I am her mother. Just because you get pregnant, and have a baby does NOT make you a mother.  A mother is the person who loves the child and cares for the child and nurtures the child. A mother puts her child first and does not knowingly put the child in harms way. A mother would do anything for her child.

Yes, she carried Madilyn for 9 months. But during that time she abused her. She abused her by smoking 2 packs of cigarettes a day, with no concern to how it would affect her in the long term. During that time stayed with a man who hit her and kicked her in the stomach. During that time she did not seek proper medical care for herself or Madilyn. These are the things we know that she did, there is no telling what other abuses were not reported to the adoption agency. Yes, she carried her but she did not nurture and care for her. She was not acting like a mother during this time. She was selfish and cared for no one except for herself. She does not deserve to be called “Mother.”

So NO I did not send her a Mother’s Day card.  I don’t know if I will ever send her one in the future, it all depends on if she changes or stays the same.

Want to slap her silly:(

Saturday, March 14th, 2009

Every once in a while I just want to find Madilyn’s bmom and slap her silly. Why in the world did she make the decision to smoke 2 packs a day while pregnant? Due to her selfishness Madilyn is very small and struggling to catch up but worse than that, she has chronic lung and bronchitis issues. We have to use a nebulizer 3 times a day, and have been using this treatment since October. It seems like every time she gets better, it only last for a few days and then we have to go back on the medication. These treatments are very difficult for Madilyn to take, as the machine is loud and she has to wear a face mask. She struggles and fights us the entire time but no matter what we can’t let her win.

Our doctor is hopeful that with time and age she will become stronger and not have to deal with bronchial issues her entire life.

I know people will say smoking is an addiction. I don’t care addictions can be broken. People try to kick their addiction but quit because they are selfish and don’t want to suffer the withdrawals of the addiction. Yes its hard but in the end once the cycle of addiction is broken your life will be better and so will the lives of everyone around you.


Friday, November 21st, 2008

Seems like every time we start moving on in life, we get a letter or email from the attorney with not so great news. Today we got our bill and the bill for the bmom’s attorney. I am still puzzled as to why we have to pay this bill for her. She is the one who sued us. So now we owe around $7000 to attorneys, we have already paid around 3000 in attorney fees. Our attorney said we can work on a payment plan, hers pretty much wants to be paid sooner rather than later. Guess we will not have any extra money for a while, since everything will be going to pay these bills.

I am trying to be positive but I am so tired of being jerked around by these people. I just want this to be over and finalized. Pray that this happens in January as planned and that we do not have to pay anymore attorney fees.

Just Rollilng Along

Thursday, November 6th, 2008

Well we are just grooving along here in the Lloyd household. We do not have any new information to report concerning the adoption or finalization. However, we have been blindsided with the bill from the bmom’s attorney, which is around $6000.00. Not too happy about this, she sued us and was trying to get us to buy her baby, now we have to pay her attorney. These laws need to be rewritten, we had our own legal fees to pay and were not prepared to pay even more. Pray for about this funding… we do not want to put it on credit, and we don’t have it all in the bank. Hopefully her attorney will accept a payment plan.