The Lloyd family consist of David, Donna, Caleb and Madilyn. We are just like any other family and are trying to make the most of our lives. The post found within this section are about our everyday life from my point of view and maybe an occasional musing from David.


Tuesday, November 26th, 2019

They say grief comes in waves— yesterday my grief hit me like a tidal wave, out of the blue.  It started when I woke up.  I felt sick to my stomach and could not eat breakfast or even finish my morning coffee. That sick feeling is the anxiety of grief showing its ugly face.

Looking out the kitchen window fall leaves caught my eye and I started crying. I miss Caleb. The changing seasons, holidays and passing of time make me miss him more. Of course, the anger of grief showed up. He chose to leave and I still struggle with being angry about that, even knowing he was not in his right mind does not help subside my anger. Grief is sometimes full of anger, at everyone, and everything.

The mask of grief showed up when I dried my tears and plastered a smile on my face and joined Madilyn in the living room for a morning movie. 

After the movie I told Madilyn I was going to get ready to take her to Airborne.  Getting ready consisted of laying in bed crying. I don’t want to go anywhere, but Madilyn deserves a normal childhood, and she deserves to be able to have fun. I ended up going out looking like a bag lady. The plan after Airborne was to go to Kirkland’s to pick up a few new throws.  After sitting there watching Madi play and being aggravated with parents that ignored their children’s excited and fearful cries, I did not have the energy to shop.  So, home we went, and a nap I took.  That’s the exhaustion of grief. 

Upon waking up, it was time for Taekwondo.  Still exhausted even after a long nap off we went to class. I watched as Madi received her Senior Orange Belt, I am so proud of her, but I am so tired. Back at home, I took a shower and cried because I am so exhausted, sad, depressed and anxiety filled.

Watching a Christmas movie brought tears, again, because the reality of grief made an appearance. In the movie a girl Madi’s age had an older brother that gave her a thoughtful gift.  There will be no more thoughtful gifts for Madi from Caleb. There will be no more laughing and plotting among siblings- our reality sucks.

Later miscommunications with David caused hurt feelings. Miscommunication during grief is common, because you no longer know how to express yourself and struggle to find the words to say.

Getting ready for bed I looked in the mirror and did not recognize the person looking back—the eyes, the skin, graying hair, the extra weight— I am no longer me.  I want my old life back. I want the happily ever after that all the fairy tales promise. I went to bed praying that during the night the tidal wave would subside, and tomorrow would be a better day.

Why am I posting this?  Because many do not understand that grief come in waves and some days are harder than others. Yes, we are coming up on 1.5 years, but the grief is still heavy. Grief cannot be controlled or rushed.  Those who are grieving need to be able to grieve, and have friends and family understand that we don’t want to stay stuck in grief, but it takes time to heal from the trauma of an unexpected loss. We can’t always be there for holidays, because it is painful. We can’t always be the one to make contact– its hard for us, because we don’t want to ruin your day and put our burdens on you.

I have good days and bad, yesterday was a bad one. Thankfully, it is not this bad everyday. If you are still reading, I hope this helps you understand just a bit more about what grief can be like.  If you are still reading this know I did not post for people to feel sorry for me.  I just want people to know that even after time it is still hard.


Monday, March 7th, 2016

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Why we don´t do Santa….

Saturday, December 19th, 2015

23219456443_6770e05fca_z I know that this is not a popular stance but in my house we do not encourage the belief in Santa. David and I decided many years ago that we would not encourage our children to believe in Santa.  (more…)


Monday, November 30th, 2015

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Monday, September 7th, 2015

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Tuesday, September 1st, 2015

fall01It’s September, almost Fall.  Fall is my favorite season. I like everything about fall, the weather, the clothing styles, the food. Fall just has a way of warming my heart and making me feel like all is right in the world.  (more…)

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Monday, August 31st, 2015

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Monday, August 24th, 2015

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Tuesday, August 18th, 2015


Its a little late, but we have been busy. We have had a great week that ended with a long weekend in Gatlinburg with extended family. It was great to be with so many of our family members. We missed those that could not be with us.  (more…)

1st Day of….

Tuesday, August 11th, 2015

1st day of 2nd Grade

1st day of 2nd Grade

Summer went by too fast for my taste. First day of 2nd grade has come and gone.

We are actually in our second week of school.  So far Madilyn LOVES school. (more…)