I really wish people would quit looking at me all bug eyed when they ask me if we are in an Open Adoption (OA), and I say no. By the look on their faces you would think I had just confessed to committing a major crime. OA is an option, not a requirement to adoption. (more…)
Adoption
Adoption is a topic that is dear to my heart. Even though our adoption has been finalized I still keep up to date on trends and important topics in the world of adoption. Our lives have forever been changed through the adoption process. Our adoption story starting with a few days before placement until the present time is recorded on this blog.
Open Adoption
Friday, October 21st, 2011Why the surprise?
Tuesday, October 11th, 2011
With adoption becoming a more talked about issue it puzzles me that people act so surprised when they find out Madilyn is adopted. Sometimes I want to ask them why they are surprised but I never do. (more…)
We simply love
Monday, October 3rd, 2011
During the past several years I have had many people ask me if I love both of my kids the same. When people ask this question I believe they are really asking, “do you love your adopted child the same way in which you love your biological child?” (more…)
But she’s so pretty…
Monday, August 22nd, 2011
Recently I was at a baby shower and the conversation turned to child birth. One of the ladies asked me about Madilyn and how I was able to get back to work so soon after her birth. Madilyn was just over two weeks old when I started my current job. Her arrival was very unexpected and I had just gotten a new job, so it was impossible to take any time off. (more…)
Three Years Ago
Friday, July 1st, 2011
Summer graduate school has kept me from having time to post…. but today is a very special day that I wanted to take time to remember.
Three years ago today David, Caleb, and I were preparing to meet our new family member. (more…)
Advantages of Adoption
Sunday, May 22nd, 2011
Several weeks ago someone at work was talking about one of the greatest advantages of adoption. I was shocked to hear that she thought the greatest advantage of adoption was and I quote,”when you adopt, you can blame behavior on the biological parents.” Her thought process seemed to follow along the lines of the nature verse nurture controversy. (more…)
Rudest Adoption Question
Tuesday, February 15th, 2011
Recently someone asked me one of the rudest question pertaining to adoption that I have ever been asked. The question was, “How much did you pay for your daughter?” I found this question to not only be rude but also offensive. This question made it sound like my daughter was a commodity made available for purchase and not a human being. I know that people are curious about adoption and the process but the wording of this question was very off putting. (more…)
Forever Family
Thursday, February 3rd, 2011
Two years ago today Madilyn became a legal member of our family. After seven months of being our daughter in our hearts and minds on Tuesday, February 3, 2009 at 10:36 am she became a legal Lloyd. (more…)
Raising an Adopted Child
Monday, January 24th, 2011
Many people have asked me over the course of the past 2 and a half years, “how is raising an adopted child different than raising a biological child?” During an average day in our lives David and I hardly ever think about the fact that our daughter is adopted. We do spend a lot of time thinking about how to get her to eat her breakfast, not run in the house, and to do what she is told to do. (more…)
Thankfulness Day 20
Saturday, November 20th, 2010
Not flesh of my flesh, Nor bone of my bone, but still miraculously my own. Never forget for a single minute, you didn’t grow under my heart but in it. – Fleur Conkling Heylinger (more…)